Cold Reality vs. Sound-Messages™
It is odd to re-start a blog with a heavy subject, but Cold Reality sometimes pushes us to do more. Sound-Messages are how we use the volume, tone, and speed of our spoken words or “how we say what we say”. A complete knowledge of Sound-Messages™ will help you understand more of your relationships past, present, and future; but it won’t prevent Cold Reality from happening to you. Two really close friends buried their son last week after he had one moment of poor judgement. Thomas is a very jovial hard working young man who battled depression and took his own life. That’s Cold Reality. I write as if he is still alive because he still exists in the minds of those who knew him and I believe he is in heaven. For me and my family, his suicide is a hard chapter in his life. For his mom and dad and sister, his suicide is Cold Reality. They could not have been better parents, not perfect, but as good as it gets on the top side of the grass. I wish I could hold them forever and pull them through this change like a sled dog. There are no words to comfort them no matter how we could say them. That’s Cold Reality.
Sound-Messages™ can be as deep as my friends’ crisis. The job or promotion we’re qualified for, but do not get. The relationship we see and want, but do not get. The stress and deaths from bullying and depression are all related to how we say what we say. Sound-Messages™ determine who are your friends, who you work for, work with, and who works for you. They will even determine who you date and who you marry. It’s all in how we say what we say during job interviews, reviews for promotions, first conversations and daily conversations.
What are your Sound-Messages™? How do you use the volume, tone, and speed of your words and how do you interpret the volume, tone, and speed of the words you hear?
Our Sound-Messages™ matter. On Sound Ground we’ll understand them truly and share them rightly.
Our mission at Sound Messages™ is to train you to listen deeply, because people want to be heard.
John Werner has degrees in Engineering, Music and Organization Development. He practices Sound Messages™ daily.
Have you asked someone to change the volume, tone, or speed of their words? What was the immediate result? Did you notice any change or improvement later? I learn from you, too; please share your thoughts in the comments section below.